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The world’s greatest counselor is NOT one who is known in all psychotherapist’s arenas.
When seeking a counselor you always want to go to the very best. Usually that person would be recommended to you by some reliable source. I like to take referrals from someone I trust.
I’ve found that the greatest counselor in the world today is the person of the HOLY SPIRIT. (John 14:26 Amplified) I was introduced to Him through the word of God and my Father God whom I trust.
The best counseling you can ever receive is Biblical Counsel because it is the truth.(John 17:17) The scripture says in the multitude of counselors there is safety.(Proverbs 24:6) This Bible gives you truth from a multitude of counselors through the Holy Spirit.
In our marriage relationship counseling, we always begin our sessions with prayer and acknowledging the Holy Spirit (the greatest counselor in the world) as the Counselor, the Comforter, and The One who leads us and guides us into all truth. We always ask Him to have His way in the session.
We also specifically pray that there be nothing hidden that should be revealed. Because of our faith in His ability to do that, it never fails that something comes to the fore that some never intended to say but that needed to be revealed to get to the root of a serious situation.
Sometimes people say one thing when the total opposite is the truth. Sometimes they are aware of that, and sometimes they are not. But the Holy Spirit reveals it to us because we pray and ask Him to; we are only cooperating with Him.
God loves you and wants you to be free from anything that would try to hinder you from being all that He intended you to be. I recommend to you the greatest counselor in the world today, the Holy Spirit.
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Here’s a brief video of our turbulent first marriage and the miraculous divorce reconciliation that God brought us to.
These are 10 marriage reconciliation mistakes to avoid if infidelity has taken place…
Forgive yourself by yielding to the power of the Holy Spirit. Yes even infidelity, lying, cheating, adultery, fornication and addictions.
Refuse to take offence will help you to get past constant conflict and promote conflict resolution
Forgive will give you all the reasons you should and what it does for you
Make love often if your marriage is strong and you want to solidify it even more. God created sexual intercourse for
Divorce Reconciliation points out the necessary main ingredients it will take to reconcile after a divorce.
What to look for in christian premarital counseling will give you 7 tips that should guild you to the right counselor.
Pornography Destroys illustrates how pornography destroys your life and the security of your family
7 tips to prevent infidelity will help you prevent mistakes that can lead to infidelity
Serial Infidelity will help couples identify and define this compulsive behavior
Blended Families will help married couples successfully come together
cheating women explores why women cheat
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Infidelity from a male perspective is a Marital Counseling retreat to be held on July 9th, 2011.
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Kind words – “What’s in a word?”…
That’s the question we should all contemplate before we open our mouths. We are bombarded with millions of words daily that come from multiple sources. Many of these words affect us both positively and negatively, but we of fail to realize that.
Many people come to our no-walls marriage counseling not realizing that they are reacting to, and exhibiting symptoms from words that were spoken over them when they were children or teenagers.
What’s in a word?
Perhaps guilt, shame, insecurities, anger, thoughtlessness or even death? Maybe what’s in a word is death to a dream, death to a future, death to a marriage or death to someone’s manhood or womanhood.
Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. (Proverbs 18:21)
So as you can see in the scriptures it is very important that we examine what’s in a word before we speak it. It is very important that we speak kind words…loving words.
People have spoken words over their children that scar them for life and they think nothing about it because those same words were spoken over them.
When we react to certain words or attitudes in a profoundly negative way we should stop and ask the Holy Spirit, “What is the root of that trigger?”, and ask him to show you how to release it.
To “release it” means to let it go; to refuse to keep any emotional attachment of anger, pain, or anything else to that trigger.
Some of us have been told we are stupid, lazy, dumb, and no good. Also as a teen you may have been called “playboy”, “sexy mama”, “sugar baby”, the class flirt, the class clown, or even one most likely not to succeed.
Ronnie and I have learned that you must be careful what nicknames you allow people to call you so you don’t live up to (or down to) those names.
Many times in our counseling sessions, the Holy Spirit has pointed out to us root causes of destructive behavior in relationships that most are not aware of.
If your marriage or relationship needs a tune up, feel free to contact us on our GET COUNSELING page. We are here to help.
Forgive the people you have not forgiven and stop being their chauffer. You continue to carry people around in your head when you don’t forgive.
Some say forgiveness is a long process. I beg to differ because unforgiveness is a sin. The Scripture says, “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1st John 1:9)
The first step is to acknowledge that you have not forgiven someone, maybe even yourself, then confess it to God as sin and ask Him to forgive you and He does that immediately.
1. God has forgiven you of a debt you could never repay. When I was having difficulty forgiving Ronnie, I stopped and thought about myself and all the many times and countless things God has forgiven me for. That realization humbled me.
2. You could have never saved yourself but He paid the price through the spotless blood of His son Jesus Christ for your redemption and salvation while you were yet in your sins.
3. We should forgive because we are the children of Him who consistently forgives.
4. Forgiveness is a gift we give to ourselves. While it releases the other person and removes the penalty of payment for what they have done, it also sets us free to become all that God would have us to be in Jesus Name.
5. To refuse to forgive puts everyone involved on lockdown. You only see and remember that person as what they did to you.
Encouraging words speak life to your relationships and will always produce good fruit. Don’t you just feel better when someone tells you you’ve done a good job?
When I clean the house and cook dinner and Ronnie tells me, “Wow Jack the house looks nice and dinner was great,” it just makes me smile and stand up a little straighter and makes me want to do it again and better.
I talked earlier about what’s in a word? and I feel like I emphasized mainly the negative talk but now I want you to understand that the power of Life is also in the tongue.
Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. (Proverbs 18:21)
When we speak uplifting words that speak life to our relationships, we get to eat the fruit of it. When Ronnie tells me how beautiful I am he gets some fruit from that later on that night. (smile)
Empowering words speak life to getting more work done around the house also. If I tell Ronnie he fixed that faucet like a paid professional, then I see him looking for what else he can fix that will get him some more praise.
In the long run I get to eat the fruit of that praise.
We are having so much fun in this second time around marriage (you can read about it in our marriage book, Love that would not let me go), encouraging one another, laughing, playing and just plain enjoying our lives together.
For instance, in our first marriage, we went on ZERO cruise vacations, in this our remarriage (renewed marriage), we have been on over 20 romantic cruise vacations… and we really want all of you to experience the same kind of thing.
If relationship counseling will help you do that, we are here to help.
The story of Adam and Eve starts out as one of the most beautiful love stories ever. When God finally introduced Adam to his wife, Adam called her, “Isha”.
Compare the love, respect and dignity found in that account of the first marriage to what goes on today…
Common courtesy and respect is the least you should expect in a relationship. Women (and men) should never be called derogatory names or talked down to. You need to be very watchful if you notice that your spouse is easily defensive or angry.
Do not overlook it!
In our pre-marital counseling, we tell couples that God gives us yellow lights, red lights, and STOP signs. Many people just run right through these and crash.
Why your spouse is angry may have absolutely nothing to do with you. But if they don’t allow the Holy Spirit to examine their heart, and learn Godly principles for communication and self-control, they could end up creating a very negative environment in the home.
If you find that your spouse is often angry, get into a conversation with God. Ask God to show you the root of this anger, even before you try to deal directly with your spouse.
The same advice also applies if you are the one who has been lashing out in anger or in frustration toward your spouse. You need to ask God to show you the root of your anger and to deal with your heart.
Why do we often feel so free to communicate so negatively with the people we profess to love the most?
How a person communicates, and what they say, can be the most powerful indication of what’s going on inside; the biggest sign of the kind of person they actually are, rather than the person they want to make believe they are.
The bible has a lot to say on how people should communicate, and these instructions should be taken very seriously by married (or courting) couples who want to have healthy relationships.
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building other up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”
-Ephesians 4:29, New International Version
We’ve previously shared some relationship communication tips from our experience, and included a resource that gets our highest recommendation. If you follow this advice that comes directly from our experiences, you should be better equipped to find joy and freedom in your marriage.
We understand that you may be in a difficult marital situation where you can’t imagine having anything wholesome or edifying to say to your spouse. During marriage coaching, we show you just how God intends to use sacrificially loving communication to bring you healing and freedom.
Very often, marriage reconciliation attempts falter because some basic rules of loving communication as taught in the scriptures are not adhered to. If you love someone, you will remember to apply the principles of love to your daily communication.
Another stage of parenting seasons consists of those years when your children are able to walk, talk and go to school. These are their focused learning years and they will also be your learning years on how to love, teach, train and discipline them at the same time.
The most important thing you can do for your children in this season is to introduce them to Jesus Christ and incorporate God and His principles into everything they do and learn.
These are the years when the children are playing soccer, football, gymnastics, skating etc. They are on the go, and so are you, but in the process, this stage of your family’s growth will require you to give them unconditional love. Always encourage your children, telling them they are champions, regardless as to whether they win or lose the game.
This is also a time to teach them discipline, sportsmanship and how to be a team player. That means you must know these things yourself in order to successfully teach them. Children mainly learn by example.
Here is good christian parenting advice…train your children.
More specifically, the bible says,
“Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6)
That word train in the Hebrew means to “make to do”.
When your children are young and tender there are things you should make them do. For instance, clean up their room, wash the dishes, sweep the kitchen floor, and dust the furniture. They should be lovingly taught how to Work.
These should never be called chores because that is what they will be looked at as a chore. I like the term responsibilities. This is so important and so often not done because it requires time, consistency and patience on the part of the parents.
Both parents must agree on this and consistently enforce the rules. Consistency is the key for this to work.
Speaking of rules, there must be some rules of discipline. The both of you decide what will be the consequences of disobedience, rebellion and not doing their responsibilities.
If you are a single parent, your responsibility is doubly difficult but the scripture says,
“I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.”
You have double duty but you are not alone. These parenting seasons will require much prayer and trust in God but remember, He can be trusted.
If you are a single mom make sure there is a Godly man who has proven himself to be trustworthy, in the lives of your children.
I reiterate that you cannot trust just anyone with your children.
Even if you trust them still pray and ask God to show you anything you need to see, and to give you discernment about all the people who are in contact with your children to avoid any type of abuse.
If you need parent coaching, don’t hesitate to contact us we are here to help.
Making marriage work always takes two (2) people. It is difficult and I would say virtually impossible to have a great marriage when both spouses are not doing everything it takes to make things work.
There are certain elements that must be present and active by both parties on a consistent basis, they are the following:
These are just a few important points to remember in making your marriage work…. things that we are presently implementing in this our second marriage, that we definitely did not do in our old marriage.
In our “divorced marriage” we didn’t keep the main things the main things, and began to take one another for granted.
You can never forget that marriage requires work or it will go the way of the trash and you will begin to trash one another like we did.
You will always need help in making your marriage work. You don’t have all of the answers to all the questions you will encounter in your marriage, none of us do. Therefore it is imperative that you know the person who does.
I am speaking of course of the person of the Holy Spirit. Jesus said,
But the Comforter (Counselor, Helper, Intercessor, Advocate, Strengthener, Standby), the Holy Spirit, Whom the Father will send in My name in My place, to represent Me and act on My behalf, He will teach you all things. And He will cause you to recall (will remind you of, bring to your remembrance) everything I have told you.
(John 14:26 Amplified)
Pray together and ask God for help. If you need counseling we are available. Never be too prideful to ask for help. Remember making marriage work takes two.
The 10 most common marriage reconciliation mistakes I’ve seen when it relates to healing from infidelity:
Mistake #1 – Lying about some aspect of the betrayal
Do not lie about anything. To rebuild the trust in the relationship, you Must tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth, so help you God. Your marriage reconciliation attempt must be honest from the start.
Mistake #2 – Trying to rush the wounded spouse
The person who committed the adultery must avoid saying to your spouse, “That is over now, let’s forget it, not talk about it any more and move on.” Your spouse is still devastated and bleeding. This is an open wound that you won’t slap a quick band aid on and hope they will be okay.(See our special marital communication game)
Mistake #3 – Lack of empathy from offending spouse
Avoid taking lightly or under estimating the catastrophic damage that has been done to your spouse and your marriage through the adultery and the lies to cover it up.
Mistake #4 – Trying to blame your infidelity on anything/anyone other than yourself
Avoid shifting the blame to the other person or circumstances. Take responsibility for your own words and actions.
Mistake #5 – Acts of violence (from either party)
Avoid any fits of violence. You will get angry, but don’t sin. You must prepare yourself to hear the truth and find out some things you may not want to hear. If you need to walk away until tomorrow so you can digest what you have heard, do so.
Mistake #6 – Getting Impatient with betrayed spouse’s communication
Avoid becoming impatient with the third degree process. It is important that everything is put on the table. That way you can make the decision whether or not to let God reconcile you to your spouse, like He (God) has forgiven and reconciled you to Him.
Mistake #7 – Leaving God out of this whole process
Pray without ceasing. Ask God to search your heart to see if there is any left over stuff in there that you haven’t dealt with yet. Any ungodly vows you may have made to yourself that you may have forgotten about. Anything that may still be there that could hinder your reconciliation. Ask Him to heal your hearts and your emotions. Ask Him to regulate your mind and thoughts and break those ungodly soul ties you have with other persons. (See the article “Step-by-step to forgiving infidelity or anything else”.)
Mistake #8 – Forgetting the nature of God’s forgiving and cleansing power
Avoid forgetting to plead the Blood of Jesus over the both of you. Your mind, your will, and your emotions. (Hebrews 9: 13 & 14)
Mistake #9 – Pride
Avoid pride at all cost, it is a killer. Humble yourselves before the mighty hand of God and one another. Then resist the devil and he will flee from you. You must say to your spouse, “I was wrong, please forgive me, I repent, now what can I do to make it right?”
Mistake #10 – Trying to maintain old lifestyle
Avoid giving your spouse any reason to doubt you ever again. Cut off all contact with any other women, friends or anyone who had anything to do with the adultery. Change your cell phone # if necessary. Your spouse should have total access to all phones, blackberry, computer passwords and all of that so the trust can be rebuilt. Avoid becoming weary in well doing because in due season you will reap if you Avoid fainting. (Galatians 6:9).
You may have noticed that some of the marriage reconciliation mistakes are made by the offending spouse, and some are made by the spouse who is working on forgiving the infidelity.
The mistakes most likely to be made by the spouse who strayed into infidelity are:
Giving your spouse less than the truth, in your communication of your infidelity and in your current behavior.
Trying to rush healing,not sufficiently empathizing or understanding the seriousness of the damage done.
On the other hand, the marriage reconciliation mistakes most often made by the forgiving spouse are:
Leaving pockets of Unforgiveness in your heart, in your thoughts and assuming they’ll go away.
Whatever you may be going through, we know that God’s heart is for reconciliation. Christian marriages often go through the same challenges as everyone else.
We offer christian marriage help and relationship repair for couples in distress. Whether through our intensive marriage counseling by phone, or live seminars and conferences, or our with our book, and web training, we are here to help.
God bless you.
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