Emotional Infidelity can be a cancer in a marriage and lead to physical adultery and divorce. This is one that is so easy to slip into. It usually begins with casual conversation and no harm intended. Many of these relationships begin in work or office settings. Maybe you begin to text one another or emailing or calling on the phone. Sometimes it could be a mutual friend that you and your spouse have that is allowed to cross emotional lines that should never be crossed. Maybe it’s a look or a touch or a comment that is out of line but is just laughed off. Then you start to think about that other person more than you should. You think about something they said to you last week that was so funny or flattering that you can’t get it off your mind.
Emotional Infidelity Often Starts With Flattery
Remember one thing; one of the definitions of flattery is a “dangerous, slippery place”. That should be a red flag every time. I’m not saying that people can’t compliment you, but you should be able to read between the lines if your heart is right. One of the most profitable habits you can form to help keep yourself from getting involved emotionally with someone is to spend time focusing on the good and Godly characteristics of your spouse. The next thing I would suggest is reading and meditating on the scriptures, in Proverbs especially, on a daily basis. I know some people would say, “I read the bible and I still got involved with someone”…I think you missed the word Meditate. Meditation is dissecting the scripture word by word. Getting the Strong’s Concordance and looking up the Greek and Hebrew meaning of every word in a particular verse. Then thinking over and over and over again about that one verse and what it means to you and how it applies to your life. Also begin to repeat it out loud to yourself. You are literally writing it on your heart. Moreover, it is so important to spend time with the Lord daily in prayer and asking Him to keep you. The Holy Spirit will lead you NOT into temptation but will deliver you from evil. Make no mistake, we all need help. The one thing I know is if you want to do the right thing, you can. If you are dealing with emotional infidelity, we are here to help… before it goes further.