Marriage Counseling Expectations “Let’s Get Happy Back”
Marriage counseling expectations vary. Often men especially come to counseling with only one goal in mind. “Let’s get happy back.”
Everyone wants to get “happy” back but they don’t want to do the work it takes to see that happen. I will admit that sorting out all the stuff that goes on the lives of people before they finally decide to come to counseling is work.
The misconception is that all the work that has to be done is on the counselor’s part. The attitude many times is, “here we are so fix us and do it fast”. That is not the way it works.
First of all, to get your happiness back, people have to tell the truth. Half truths and guile won’t cut it. We must have the truth the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Only then does the Holy Spirit have something to work with.
I have seen it happen over and over again. When the truth finally comes out of a person’s mouth, they hear it themselves, and that allows the Holy Spirit to put His finger on the root cause of what is going on.
Happiness might be buried under years of denial, lies, hurts, rejections and abuse. Perhaps, happiness has to be dug out and digging beneath the surface usually hurts.Getting happy back always means coming clean with God. Psalm 139:23 & 24(Amplified) says:
Search me thoroughly O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there is any wicked or hurtful way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.
When you get honest with God and yourself, he will show you you, and there will be no denying it.
That is what I found out, as I wrote in my book Love that would not let me go.
I thought our divorce was all Ronnie’s fault until God showed me me, and my part in the matter.
You can get “happy” back and we can help you in counseling because God will pull you through anything, if you can stand the pull.
If you have lost the “happy” in your marriage, I urge you to get intensive marriage counseling.