Rebuilding Burnt Bridges
Rebuilding burnt bridges after a divorce is an art. First you have to want to. There are so many dynamics that take place during a break up and divorce that can leave us bruised and scarred to the point that we just want to say, “Forget You!” Jesus always being our ultimate example, didn’t say forget you to the disciples who denied Him, or to the people who crucified Him instead He said, “Father forgive them for they know not what they do.” He began rebuilding burnt bridges immediately. That is exactly what He requires us to do if we want Him to forgive us and of course we do. (Mark 11:22-26) He didn’t throw you away when you messed up, He made a way for you not to have to pay for your sin, He didn’t forget you. (Romans 10:8-10 & 1st John 1:8-10) There are mother-in-laws, father-in-laws, children and friends who may have taken sides when the break up occurred that didn’t really mean any harm. Often, people don’t know what to do or how to act in the midst of turmoil between 2 people they love. I can hear you saying, “I’m not rebuilding burnt bridges with them, they knew what they were doing, they meant to hurt me.” Hey, get over it, some of them meant to hurt me too and told me so, but let it drop, let it go, release it and move on. Go to our page How to Forgive it will show you how to forgive anybody anything.
A God Kind of Life is Made up of Healthy Relationships
We have to learn how to fight for our relationships and not be so quick to throw people away no matter what they have done. I realize there are some people you have to love from a distance, but you still have to love them if you want your heart to be pure and pleasing to God. (Romans 12:18) There will be times when the Holy Spirit will lead you to go to that person and tell them how they hurt you. Other times He may want you to just forgive them, pray for them and give them a gift. (Luke 6:27-38) Read what Jesus said about your enemies.
Get Correct Teaching on the Matter
I’m Not telling you to lie down and be a doormat, or let someone abuse you. To the contrary, I’m saying go the extra mile to reconcile your differences and work on rebuilding burnt bridges before it’s too late. After our divorce there were several people I had to forgive who had said things and done things that hurt me deeply. But I realized after I did it that I was the one who benefited the most.(Read our Miracle Marriage Reconciliation Story). When you don’t forgive a person you hold them and you on Lockdown. You are as much a prisoner as they are and until you forgive you are handed over to the torturers. Their names are stiff neck, back pain, headaches, arthritis, anger, and premature ageing. Please work on rebuilding burnt bridges because the life you save may be your own.